Reading self help books is something that I have enjoyed for a number of years. I have read so many of them now that I have lost count. I actually like them a lot and each one has something important to share. Even though I have done a lot of reading in the last 10 years, I have only recently understood that action is the key. Self help is not something you can do unless you are willing to help yourself and helping yourself requires action. One of the first actions that I have decided to take is in finding my light. That thing that makes you shine from the inside out. That gift that we have that we can share with others to help them light their own light.
Like almost everyone, my past is pretty dark. I have had some pretty shitty cards handed to me and I am lucky to be able to realize that I am NOT my past. I have been able to learn from past mistakes and propel forward with a better understanding of what not to do. I was a learn the hard way kind of person. We’re you? Out of this darkness and trial and error system I have learned something very valuable. Finding small flickers of light throughout my day helped me to find a way to ignite my guiding light or life purpose for those who need a less fluffy term.
The small lights for me usually two things, being of service to others or finding beauty in the every day stuff. Things like holding a door for a stranger, offering to load groceries for a senior, volunteering at the kids’ school or in my community are all things that light me up in service of others. Growing food and flowers, watching my laughing Buddha Baby with his toothless grin, the hilarious personality of Chaos (baby number 3) and her epic antics, Loki dog playing with a stick, finishing the dishes without interruptions are all small lights that make my heart sing with joy. These small lights are what keep me going when things get tough. Those days when all seems to be going wrong and we are late for something or things keep spilling or someone forgets something and I have to make an unexpected trip out of the house, there is ALWAYS something that comes up and rescues my day by way of a small light. You just need to be open and know that it will come. We will never see these little rescues if we don’t allow ourselves to know that they will come up. When you make the conscious choice to be open to the small lights they seem to show up at just the exact moment they are needed.
Once you start seeing and enjoying all these small lights they seem to accumulate into something bigger. They are guides like solar lights on a garden path. They move you into a space that will now support a larger light. Something that can shine on and on and seemingly fuel itself and light your soul up so that you are a beacon from the inside out. It oozes through you into your day to day life in a way that cannot be ignored and it is always positive. When we make that choice to shine everything just seems to fall into place all on its own. Worries fall away, fears dissipate into wisps of smoke, love flows easily from and to us, and everything seems synchronistic and lining up for us. It is the most magical thing.
For me, my guiding light is right here. I know that I am meant to help people find their light. I am meant to share myself and my own life lessons and help others find their own personal power. Often I do this without even thinking about it as helping. I encourage children to try again when they have given up, I hug my friend and tell her she is beautiful and loved, I make a meal for a friend who stopped by after work and is exhausted and they feel my love for them. I do whatever I can sometimes without thinking, to ensure that the people around me feel like they are good enough as they are. They are accepted for who they are and I will support them and encourage them on their own journeys to realizing how fucking awesome they are! That is my light, that is my purpose and that is what I am setting out to do. It is my goal to one day speak in front of groups. I want to share my light and help others find theirs. That is what drives me and that is how I shine. I lovingly nudge people to realize that they are amazing and can accomplish whatever they want to simply by being themselves and going for it!
What are your small flickers? What little things keep you going throughout your day? Have you found your guiding light yet? I would love to know what it is!! Leave a comment and share your light with the world!